Friday, August 21, 2015

Forrest is THREE Years Old

Dear Forrest,

You are THREE years old.


Mama is amazed at how quickly these three years have gone by. She no longer feels like she 'had recently given birth' to you, yet the memory of holding you in her arms for the very first meeting is still so fresh in her mind. Mama has learned that motherhood is a juxtaposition in a sense that with her child's growing up, a mother feels an ache that her baby is no longer a baby, yet her heart is so full of pride that her child is becoming a fascinating, fun little person.

Yet another year has passed. You continue to amaze us with your infectious energy, a rambunctious laughter, a constant absorbent knowledge of the world around you, a passion for life, and love of people in your life. You are a perfect puzzle fitting into our lives. It is hard to remember what life has been like before you came along, and to be honest, we really don't want to remember, because you bring so much happiness to us on a daily basis. 

This past year has been both wonderful, and not so wonderful. As it is customary for every two-year old to go through terrible twos; you have not been most certainly exempt from this stage, and to make this even a wilder ride, throw in your strong-will nature into the terrible twos! It has been a learning curve not just for you, but for your parents as well! Needless to say, it has been a big adventure with you, our dear boy.


You love dinosaurs, dragons, trucks, cars, farm animals, farming, and animals. It is not surprising that your favorite signs are anything relating to animals! You know your ABC's both spoken, and signed. You love showing off your knowledge of ABC's to family, and friends. You always end up with a puffed chest, and a big smile on your face as you finish reciting it. It always bring joy to Mama and Daddy to have you to be so proud of your accomplishments, passions, and love of things that bring happiness to you.

Every night, you are tucked in your bed; you request a bucket of dinosaurs, stuffed dinosaurs, favorite books, and ABC puzzle board. You are always talking to yourself in your own language, and it is funny to hear you shout out ABC's as you are falling asleep. More often than not, once Mama and Daddy are sure you are fast asleep, Mama sneaks in your bedroom to silently tidy toys off your bed so you will have a room to sleep during the night! Otherwise, you would have fallen out of bed from the lack of space in your bed.



Currently, Mama and Daddy are working on getting you enrolled with school for speech therapy. There will be an Individualized Education Program (IEP) meeting to determine what kind of placement you will be put in--whether it will be preschool once or twice a week, or a private speech therapy to promote your language development. You will definitely rock at this. Mama and Daddy are anxious to see what kind of growth will occur from you being in the program for speech!

You are so fiercely independent, and crave to do everything by yourself. It can be a challenge in itself, because Mama wants to do things for you. She had to learn how to give up some of her control, and realize that this is HOW you learn. You are very much so of a "hand-on" learner. You need to interact with something in order to absorb facts, steps, and how it works. You need to do it not once, not twice, or not three times, but MULTIPLE times. 

You challenge. A rule has to be tested so many times before you realize that it is set in rule, and will not change regardless how you approach it. You test Mama, or Daddy by pushing their buttons. You can act petulant, angry, and stubborn when you feel that others are overstepping your bounds of getting what you want! You don't handle it well when people try to tell you what to do. What a stubborn little child that you are! You are very insistent of doing things YOUR way on YOUR own term. On some days, Mama want to send you to the Zoo!



However, this is not a bad thing! Mama and Daddy want to nurture your need to challenge into something positive rather than squashing it. If you don't challenge, and constantly obey instead, then how do you learn? A blind obedience may lead to you to not question. If you don't question, then where can you get your answers from? If you don't have answers, then how can you be a team player, and lead? This is a hope we have for you: for you to never stop questioning, challenging, and getting answers to your thoughts.

By challenging, you also are persistent. Being persistent is a good thing! It may not always lead to getting what you want. You may not always achieve after all of your hard work. But that is okay, because you did not give up, and in the end, you do still get the pay off. The pay off is your strength, patience, and character that has been developed from not giving up.

Despite this strong will nature you have, you are starting to understand what the boundaries are, and this teaches you how to be respectful not only to yourself, but to others, and to the things around you. You understand when you need to cool down, and to situate yourself in a calm manner. You are a very polite boy; always saying please, and thank you. When asked, you clean your mess, and put your things away in proper places. This makes Mama and Daddy very happy to know that you are being raised into a decent young man. Even though you like doing things on your own term, you also like to make people happy around you. While this is perfectly fine to want please others occasionally in order to be a good team player, it is also important to remember that you can also focus on making yourself happy, because there is only ONE you.


You love to help. You enjoy stacking up dishes, or taking it out to hand them to Mama. You enjoy helping Mama prep for meals by standing on your red chair, handing over a specific ingredient to Mama, and transferring prepped food into a dish. While she is cleaning, you happily hold the broom dustpan, and dump the content into the trash. You love sitting on Daddy's lap on a mowing rider as you both mow the lawn. When Daddy and Mama is working on their garden, you throw weeds in a bag, and toss dirt onto the seeds. You love spraying water on the garden. When Frank's dirty diaper needs to be thrown away, you excitedly carry it to the trash, and rejoice in doing a task! Mama hope you will apply your desire to help in helping others down the road, and be a good friend to many. 

You are fearless, and bold. You face on your fears without a second thought. For instance, you hold on to Mama's hands as you leap into a pool a few times, then you decide that you no longer need to hold on to Mama, and you leap into the water by yourself! You walk up to strangers, and gladly accept their conversations, as much to Mama's cringe. She would like you to be less bold sometimes, but then that won't make you YOU.


Even with your bold nature, you do have one fear that you struggle to overcome, and it is your fear of doctor visits. It is not surprising to see that you have a bit of anxiety surrounding doctor appointments due to your past testing for allergies, and two trips to ER. You make your disapproval known by screaming, kicking, and crying every time we go into a waiting room. Mama suspects that a part of this stems from your inability to communicate your anxiety, and to understand what is being communicated to you. With a help from speech therapy, Mama is sure that you will be able to outgrow your anxiety of  visiting doctors!

Oh my, what a social butterfly that you are. People are always complimenting on how outgoing you are. You don't give Mama, or Daddy a second glance as you run into the circle of other kids, and play with them. You open up so much to people around you, so they naturally gravitate to your charismatic nature. Mama can see you becoming an extrovert with many friends flocking toward you. This is where Mama sees so much of Daddy in you. She can already imagine having a few friends coming over with you, wanting to join us for dinner, and having a company for the evening for a few hours.


You are in the process of toilet training. It is not an easy feat for you, and Mama both. There has been days when Mama thinks you aren't ready, and then there are days when you surprise Mama by using the potty! It is Mama's hope that you will be potty trained by 3 and half, but we shall see, won't we!

You are a wonderful big brother. You are always protecting Frank from Bea when Bea gets too rough with him by licking excessively, barking, or jumping on him. You smile, and kiss Frank. You even share your toys with him! It brings a great joy to Mama, and Daddy to see you loving on Frank. Mama, and Daddy look forward to having your relationship grow, and become stronger with Frank as you both grow up.



You have such a zest for life, and it shows through your big smile.Your loud laughter echoes as you run around wildly, and you run into people with such a hard thump as you give them hugs. You live things rather intensely. You like make yourself heard. You are not afraid to show your emotions either through your scowl, a stinky eye as you manage your mischief, a gentle kiss on Frank's head, a hard shove at a very wiggly puppy harassing your brother, a wet noisy kiss on Mama's cheek, a shrill scream as Daddy toss you over his shoulder onto the bed while wrestling, and excitedly clapping as you show off your ABC's. You are full of flair, drama, and extravagance! Life is rarely dull with your big personality!


We are so excited to see what your third year will bring to you, and us. You are such a blessing in our lives, and we are so proud of you.

Love,

Mama, Daddy, & Frank